Chemistry: a good friend- that I have know for years- and I were talking last weekend and his relationship had just ended because the girl said there was "no chemistry". .....Okay that's a lie! This happened to me a few months ago with a guy, Todd, we had only been on 2 dates when he said this. Then again yesterday, after a quick weekend over Thanksgiving then a week of almost silence another guy told me it wasn't worth it because there was no chemistry. To that I say, billogna oh I mean bologna! you scared little lambs with no understanding of chemistry.  I am not going to make this about me and give you specifics and dirty details, but I am going to tell you what I understand about chemistry.

A chemical reaction comes in many forms. Single displacement, double displacement, synthesis, combustion, decomposition, and acid-base. Depending on the elements combined, different reaction will occur. Different outcomes will occur. Sometimes there is an explosion, sometimes a release of gas, or a change in color. Other times there is a precipitate, a slow bubble, a temperature change, and sometimes the change is so subtle the naked eye doesn't see it. So it is with life and love. If you are expecting fireworks and explosions, you may be disappointed and alone for a very long time. Chemistry is never just one element. There is a whole periodic table. It is never just one reaction. It is an almost infinite series of actions and reactions that are all different. Some are cool, other release heat, some turn purple, and some smell like rotten eggs.  Too many people are focused on perfection and the big bang that they miss out on the simply beautiful, and delicate chemical reactions that can only be caused by letting go, letting someone in, and allowing yourself to love uninhibited (this does not mean throw your moral standards to the wind!).  This is not easy and there is no guarantee love will pan out, no guarantee you will find happiness.  But, if you adjust your chemical expectations (not standards, keep those) and are open to something other than a giant explosion, your chances increase exponentially, and at the end of the day you will at least be able to say, "I genuinely tried". Which is more than most I have encountered can say.